The Power of Cleaning Up Your Mess

We all go through times when all, one or some of the areas of our lives are a mess. Whether it’s our house, finances, love life, health, or career…you name it sometimes life is just messy! Being messy is far from a bad thing. Sometimes we need to make a mess and clean it up to change and growbc9a6aa4d1854ecce0efc8b22354322b. If everything is picture perfect all the time you probably aren’t making the most out of your life.

I am the type of person that LOVES organization, order, cleanliness and control. I thrive in an environment that is tidy, neat and put together. When my surroundings are messy, not gonna lie, I kinda freak out.

So last week I got to have my personal space turned upside down when my fiancé and his son moved into my townhome. I have lived solo for about 9 years and even when I didn’t live alone, I very much had my own space. Needless to say this change is an adjustment for me. 

If you’ve moved before you know that you have to live in a mess for a while as you organize, declutter, unpack, sort, etc. Boxes everywhere, the house gets dusty and dirty, nothing has a place…ah!!! Freak out mode…well managed though since my fiancé is equally eager to get everything put together. And although he and I managed to pack him up, move, unpack, remodel the garage, get some new furniture, declutter, store stuff and have the house organized in about 5 days, which is pretty quick (I’ve lived in 14 different house in my life so I kinda know how long it takes to move) I still felt a bit of an emotional roller coaster brought on by this change.

My life has run on my terms for quite some time now. I, for the most part, have control of all areas of my life. I’ve been through some shit over the years, but in the past 4 years have gotten out of a variety of messes and have thrived personally, professionally, financially and physically. Now my life is being shared with my fiancé, as is my space, and things are different than the one-woman show I’ve grown accustom to.

After getting through last week and he and I working together to make my space our space, I can say it was a great decision to make this mess and clean it up. It reminded me you can’t let yourself ever get too comfortable. Challenging yourself to step outside of your comfort zone is the key to happiness, health and success.

Believe me I could have stayed single, independent and a solo operation for the rest of my life and been happy and content, but that would have been easy and not very fulfilling. Creating and sharing my life with my fiancé has made my life better than I imagined. I will take the challenges that come with growing a relationship, the beautiful messiness that comes with having another person in my life over going back to my life before. No I don’t need a man, I am an independent woman, but I want a man and feel blessed that I found one who makes my life better and supports me 100%.!

So I bet you thinking WTF does this have to do with training or me? Well everything! Because change happens, life happens when you get messy and uncomfortable. In your job, relationships, home, finances, and health sometimes you have to get through messy shit to move forward. Be it unpacking boxes, recovering from bankruptcy, or pushing yourself to take care of you…they all take courage, strength, and a little elbow grease.

We often find ourselves in two types of situations…comfortable or a total mess. We must find the middle. We must step outside of our comfort zone, but not live in chaos. Remember it’s a journey. You can’t change everything all at once. If your finances are a mess, but your job is stable, focus on cleaning up your messy finances. If your health is a mess, but your relationships are stable focus on your health. And sometimes if one area is out of whack, the mess spreads to multiple areas. Believe me…your finances, love life, and career can be a mess all at once. Taking care of one area can result in improving other areas as well.

Be honest with yourself about where you are a mess and what areas of your life need to be cleaned up. Sometimes the outside package we present to the world is not a accurate representation of what’s going on behind closed doors, so don’t fool yourself into thinking your life is perfect because the outside “looks” good. Take inventory of what needs a little TLC and have the courage to do something about it. Going through a mess is sometimes is exactly what you need to launch you forward!

All the messes I had to clean up in my past prepared me to be ready for what I have today!

Here are a few things you can do today to start cleaning up your messes:

1.     Organize your space.  Pick one area to work on.  It can be a drawer in your room, a whole room or a file cabinet.  Whatever it is, just start.  You will feel a huge relief by starting to clean up your physical mess.

2.     Take a financial baby step.  Start putting a small amount into savings each month, get a credit check, take inventory of your monthly bills and make needed adjustments, start a budget, read a financial book.  Any little step will give you the momentum to start cleaning up your financial mess.

3.     An apple a day.  Make that doctors appointment, set a performance goal, find a training partner, and integrate one nutritious food per day.  One small change at a time can turn into a healthier you and prevent a messier health situation later.

4.     Love yourself.  You’ve heard it a million times, but loving yourself is the key to a healthy, happy relationship with someone else.  Learn to become the partner you would want.  Communicate, listen, fulfill your needs, be honest.  Above all else take care of yourself.  When you start taking better care of yourself emotionally you will enhance the relationship you have or attract the relationships you want into your life. One choice a day to focus on respecting yourself can clean up a messy relationship.

5.     Invest in your career.  You might not have the job/career you want at the moment, but it’s still a place that you can learn and grow.  Analyze how your attitude impacts your performance and productive, communicate with your boss, set manageable goals, learn to say no, negotiate, and invest in your dreams.  Cleaning up the messiness or drama at work can open up your time and energy to fulfill your dreams. 

Jessica Storch, MA is a boxing coach, personal trainer, health coach and owner of Knockout Women's Boxing Club in Westmont, IL. Her mission is to empower women to be their best through the sport of boxing. She promotes a health focused mentality and encourages women to let go of the diet mentality. Jessica believes weight loss doesn't equal health and works with women to support them in building healthy lifestyles and happy lives.